NVC Nonviolent Communication Sessions in Brighton, Kemptown and Hove
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and also called Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication is a therapeutic and communication approach developed by Marshall Rosenberg beginning in the 1960s (book: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life).
The key concept behind NVC is the perception that human beings have a capacity for compassion and empathy. And because some people don’t have effective communication skills, they resort to violence or harmful behaviours to meet their needs as well as express yourself and receive communication from others with empathy. NVC helps you to address stuck conversations, listen subtly to yourself and others, decode unspoken communications and to create deeper relationship harmony. Nonviolent Communication (NVC) allows principles and practices for speaking with clarity, honesty and compassion. It supports awareness and effectiveness in any communication.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is used for
NVC helps to meet universal human needs
NVC suggests that our habitual way of thinking and speaking is culture-specific or learned which can lead to social, psychological and physical harm. NVC theory states that human behaviour is driven by attempts to meet human needs. These needs are universal and never in conflict as such, rather, conflict issues arise when strategies for meeting these needs clash. NVC works by identify shared needs with underlining thoughts and feelings and help to develop strategies to make requests to meet each other’s needs.
Levels of NVC
NVC works on three levels: within the self, between individuals and within groups or social systems.
History of Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as espoused by Marshall Rosenberg was influenced by the work of Carl Rogers who developed Client/Person-centred Psychotherapy in which I am qualified as a psychotherapist and counsellor with UKCP & BACP. Every culture when greeting another asks “How are you?”. It is an important question. Those attending counselling or psychotherapy can bring ‘how they are’ to the relationship with the therapist. And, it is a gift to know at any given moment what is alive in someone. NVC honours a person’s revealing of themselves and encourages a lack of blame or criticism in such vulnerability. Likewise, it emphasises empathic connections with others, empty of judgement.
NVC is a process that helps one connect with one’s own feelings and that of others in a way that can lead to well-being and healthy relationships. It is amazing how easy it is to bring about reconciliation and healing when experiencing NVC. The process really quickly heals when people have experienced a lot of pain. NVC is an education in how to relate with compassion to oneself and others whatever the circumstances. People involved in this process experience what it is to be accurately understood and feel a welcome warmth of heart that arises from being in touch with another person.
The quality of connection created by NVC can transform situations where conflict is in the air, so that compassion emerges, and people can choose harmonious actions. NVC enables one to offer compassion to oneself on a daily basis and in a valuable way. That, in turn, leads to giving compassion to others in an easy and deeply enjoyable way. Arising out of compassion and self-compassion, through the process of NVC, there can develop clarity and strength from one’s own basic life impulse and also the basic life impulse and universal human energies in others, which rich combination can lead to reconciliation, conflict resolution and healing.
NVC assumptions underlying the process are as follows:
• Humans share the same needs
• There are sufficient resources for meeting everyone’s basic needs
• Actions are attempts to meet needs
• Feelings point to needs being met or unmet
• Human have the capacity for compassion
• Human beings enjoy giving
• Humans need through interdependent relationships
• Humans change
• A choice is internal, and a way to peace is through self-connection
How the NVC Nonviolent Communication process works
NVC is composed of four aspects: observations, feelings, needs and requests.
Brendan Nee has undertaken extensive training in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and provided training in its undoubted benefits. I am also a qualified Mediator at the Centre for Effective Dispute Resolution (CEDR) in London. He’s worked in communications for almost 35 years and also as a counsellor and mediates for people in dispute. Read more about Brendan Nee